"Pssst... that child, is' not her own, she adopted the child..."
Have you ever heard voices like these?
Why? Why are you whispering? Why the smug look on your face?
Is it something shameful?
I don't understand.
People need to accept it more openly now. Adopting doesn't directly imply that the couple or the person do not have the ability to give birth or are to weak to, it doesn't have to mean the person can't find a partner or what so... Adoption is an option for people who wants to nurture a child simply.
In fact, adoption should actually be more accepted.
It is one's freedom and right if they want to have their own blood and flesh, giving birth to their own children. But if you want to just adopt a child and love him/her just like your own, it is not impossible. There are so many orphans out there, when we can give love, care and nurture to them instead, why not? Of course, once again, it's just a choice, but I'm saying, it is not something to be looked down on.
Some people tend to say, "you can't totally love him/her if they're not your own blood and flesh", "you will feel 'why did I even get myself into this?' when you're handling the child that you adopted and they give you troubles"...
Children are children, they will all go through different phases, they have different emotions, different patterns, different attitudes... I believe they all deserve love... Whether if they do requite it or not, we cannot force them, we cannot expect them to... They are not obligated to just like how we were not obligated to give them love, but we can choose to.
Besides that, I have to say, a lot of adults nowadays are not able to commit time to take care of an actual child, adoption doesn't have to mean having the child living with you, sponsoring them with necessities, supporting their education and so on is also a form of adoption. It's practiced by a lot of people nowadays but I'd like to put it in here again to emphasize it, to support the action. With a minimum amount every month, you can help make a child's life better, even with providing money that enables them to have clean water is a great deal. Don't think of it as a huge responsibility that you won't be able to bear and give up the thought right at that moment, think of what you can still do. Any form of support, no matter how much it is, the heart and the action to contribute something is the most important and beautiful.
Adopting a child is a beautiful thing. It's a great responsibility, a great commitment, a big deal for the child and yourself... Instead of being despised I believe it should be respected.